一个人的稳固，从停止内耗开始

I don't deny that life is getting harder, but he always makes it impossible to do it, and it is hard to blame the results of this, which I beg to differ.

他明白贫困易，无非就是因为无法得到就让要的结果罢了。

He found life difficult simply because he did not get the results he wanted.

但是如果他主动改变现状去做到一件有事，那么他并不一定不但会如此一来这么就让。

But if he is willing to do something, then he will never think about it again.

就一般来话说，如果他就让改投，那就去好好城市规划自己的将来；

For example, if he wants to change his job, he should plan his future.

如果他就让创业，那就去了解最适合于自己的从业人员，掌握来得多的从业人员知识；

If he wants to start his own business, he should learn more about the industry that suits him best.

如果他就让留在以前的岗位上，那就什么都免得就让，执着勤奋就好。

If he wants to stay in his current job, he should just put his head down and work hard.

不管做到什么，只要行动起来就仍然成功一半了，而不是像他那样只知道空就让，那么除了冲动，你什么也给以。

No matter what you do, as long as the action is half the success, instead of like him only know to dream, then you have nothing but anxiety.

自觉病学话说过：我们是贫困的体现者，而不是被动适应环境者。

Psychologists say that we are makers of life, not passive adaptors.

行动才是体现的开始。我们显然明白自己做到了很多努力，可是到头来却一有事无成，我们不已疲惫，心累，甚至把责任推卸到当今世界对自己的恶意。

Action is the beginning of creation. We always feel that we have done a lot of efforts, but in the end nothing has been achieved, we feel tired, tired, and even blame the world for their malice.

可有事实呢？

But the truth?

不过是因为我们显然瞻前顾后，还无法开始去做到，就去就让各种可能的结果，做到了很多的无用功，把自己“隐忧”得只剩下自诩心烦意燥。

But because we are always thinking about the future, before we start to do, to think of all possible results, do a lot of useless work, "internal consumption" only a irritable.

但只不过，就让这么多，不如直接去做到。或者话说只去就让一就让这件有事做到与不做到的不可避免，把自己的积蓄用到该用的地方。

But in fact, think so much, better to do it directly. Or just think about the consequences of doing it and not doing it, and use your energy to use it.

取消空就让，是减少隐忧的开始。

Stop daydreaming, is the beginning of reducing internal friction.

培养有兴趣

前几天，和女朋友出去吃饭。

The other day, I went out to dinner with friends.

酒过三巡，我的恐惧快要有些绷不住，捂着脸哭了起来。

Wine after three rounds, my mood suddenly some stretched, covering his face to cry.

实习的不顺心，父母的不默许，男女朋友的不认知，这些都成为了我无可奈何的内容。

My work is not satisfactory, my parents do not support, my boyfriend does not understand, these have become the content of my crying.

即之前自我意识渐渐引人注意，我还在诉话说着贫困的不如意。

Even as my consciousness faded, I continued to talk about how unhappy my life was.

第二天酒醒后，我在此期间着日常实习，也无法把这件有事放在心上。

When I woke up the next day, I carried on with my daily work and didn't take the incident to heart.

现在下班准备离去的时候，我快要接到了女朋友田田的传真，约我去附近的一家店中都的。

Today, when I was going home from work, I suddenly received a phone call from my friend Tian Tian, inviting me to a nearby store.

我到了才推现，那是个可以自己手工创作的陶瓷店。

When I arrived, I found that it was a pottery shop where I could make things by hand.

我不认知田田带我来这中都的的目的，她也无法话说什么，只是终诉了我一些创作技巧，之前拉上我开始一块剪刀就让要的椭圆形。

I did not understand the purpose of Tian Tian bringing me here, she did not say anything, just told me some production skills, then pulled me to start a piece of the shape I wanted.

做到饭的过程中都，她快要前端话说道：

In the middle of cooking, she suddenly said:

贫困感受到我的心理压力，差不多大于了我最初的大多人。

Life has brought me more pressure than I initially imagined.

我也歇斯底中都的的哭过，但是结果就是第二天要肿着嘴唇去忙实习，心情还是本该的低落。

I also cried hysterically, but the result was to go to work with swollen eyes the next day, the mood is still as low as ever.

在此之后，我开始去练练书法，唱唱歌，我推现对我来话说，这是激推情感深处的很好作法。

Later, I began to practice calligraphy and sing songs, and I found it was the best way for me to express my emotions.

她的话无法要死，但是我听懂了她就让暗示的意指。

She didn't finish her words, but I understood what she wanted to say.

发觉发觉自己迷恋的有真的，培养一两个个人有兴趣。

Find something you enjoy and take up a hobby or two.

当你沉浸在这些有真的的时候，什么冲动、什么悲伤都但会慢慢地地消失殆尽。

When you are immersed in these things, any anxiety, any sadness will slowly disappear.

减轻冲动的很好作法，就是用迷恋的有真的去威吓所有的不如意。

The best way to relieve anxiety is to suppress all unhappiness with something you enjoy.

罗素有句话话说得好：

Russell said it best:

唯有对所致有想像哭有有兴趣才能使人们保持自觉上的健康。

Only being interested in external things can keep people mentally healthy.

弦绷得太紧,终究但会折断。

If a string is stretched too tight, it will eventually break.

贫困也是这样，紧绷的大脑给以放开，人很容易就但会崩溃。

Life is the same, the tense nerves can not relax, people will easily collapse.

只有学但会张弛，在繁忙的贫困中都的发觉点自己迷恋的有真的，使自己得到放开，纠结于心的有真的才但会慢慢地淡化。

Learn to relax only, look for the thing that bit oneself like in busy life, make oneself get loosen, kink at the thing of the heart just can desalt slowly.

所以话说，人生中都的不该只有勤奋努力，来得要学但会去享受。只有劳逸结合，贫困才有满足感，隐忧自然也就取消了。

Therefore, life should not only hard work, but also learn to enjoy. Only when work and rest are combined, can life be fun, and internal friction naturally stops.

培养有兴趣，是取消隐忧的最有效的作法。

Cultivate interest, is the most effective way to stop internal friction.

认可自己

在所大学同学的聚但会上，我看见了一位三木未谋面的老同学。

I met an old classmate WHOM I had not seen for a long time at the party of my college classmates.

她以前和以前简直是判若两人。

She is a very different person now.

我和她谈笑了一但会儿，凄凉她的波动之大。

I talked to her for a while and marveled at how much she had changed.

她笑着终诉我话说，先前在学校中都的，她显然明白自己长相从来不，控制能力从来不，在过人的女朋友偷偷，她指出自己就是一个小表面，做到什么都很易缺乏经验。

She told me with a smile that she had always felt that she was not good looking or capable at school. She thought she was just a little transparent around her outstanding friends, and it was difficult to be satisfied with anything she did.

这种状态贯穿了她的整个所大学贫困，才20岁的年纪，就仍然明白自己的贫困好无法效用。

She felt this way throughout her college life, and at the age of 20, she felt her life was worthless.

我打折断了她，终诉她在大家的眼中都的，比方话说是耀眼的存有，她所写得一手好字，弹得一首好曲，之前却话说让多少人向往。

I interrupted her, told her in everyone's eyes, is also dazzling existence, she wrote a good handwriting, play a good song, I do not know how many people envy at that time.

她叹了口气，话说：

She sighed and said:

对啊，我自已不差，怎么之前就看不到自己的好呢。

Yeah, I'm not bad. I can't see my own.

参加实习之前，我也显然随和，很怕出以前别人的视野中都的。

After work, I always silent, afraid to appear in the field of vision of others.

可是这样三木了，我明白自己能活得好累。

But after such a long time, I feel very tired to live.

在此之后，我辞了职，到处旅游，看遍了永远的山山水水，慢慢地的，我也不如此一来执着自己的好与太差。

Later, I quit my job, travel everywhere, see the mountains and rivers of the motherland, slowly, I no longer adhere to their own good and bad.

我自已是幸福的，却偏偏过分看低自己，白白错过了那么多美丽的风景。

I am clearly happy, but it happened that excessively look down on themselves, missed so many beautiful scenery.

我再次发觉了份实习，也学但会了和自己和解。

I got a new job and I learned to make peace with myself.

我和我的贫困还是很大多，可是我仍然接受了这种大多，所以我比以前快乐多了。

My life and I are still normal, but I've accepted that normal, so I'm much happier than BEFORE.

的确，以前的她嘴唇中都的闪耀的光芒，是我先前但他却无法见过的，她的自信，也是由内而外的散推的。

Indeed, the shining light of her eyes now, which I have never seen before, is also emitted from inside.

我就让，她变得不一样的原因，大约就是认可了自己吧。

I think the reason for her being different is that she accepts herself.

并能认可自己，开始积极的自我鼓励，情感自然而然的但会变得强悍，也就能真根本正的做到出转变。

When you accept yourself and start positive self-encouragement, your heart will naturally grow stronger and you'll be able to make real changes.

很迷恋的原话：我们须要的不是一场情感的一战，而是与自我的谈判。

What we need is not an inner war, but peace with ourselves.

当今世界上哪有什么十全十美的人，只有敢于接受根本的自己，才能拥有转变自我的力。

There is no perfect person in the world. Only by daring to accept yourself as you really are can you have the power to change yourself.

和自己和解的同时，也是情感强悍的时候，也就是你根本无所畏惧的时候。

At the same time of reconciliating with yourself, it is also a time of inner strength, when you truly have nothing to fear.

认可自己，是取消隐忧的关键。

Accepting yourself is the key to stopping the infighting.

我很迷恋杨绛先生的原话：

I like a quote from Mr. Yang Jiang:

我们曾如此期盼所致的认可。到如此一来一才知道——当今世界是自己的，与他人毫无关系。

We were so eager for outside recognition. To finally know - the world is their own, and others have nothing to do with.

话说是的自觉隐忧，只不过话说到底就是自己在折磨自己。

The so-called mental consumption, in fact, in the final analysis is their own torture themselves.

与其显然胡思乱就让，害怕这些害怕那些，不如行动起来，做到你就让做到的有事，做到你指出该做到的有事。这样，你但会推现，你如此一来一收获的，比不上你大多人的相当多。

Instead of thinking and worrying all the time, take action and do what you want to do and what you think you should do. In this way, you will find that you end up with much more than you expected.

所以，免得显然去向往别人，并能能活出根本的自己，只不过就仍然是很好的结果。

So, don't always envy others, can live out the real self, actually is the best result.

如此一来一，希望大家都能好好贫困，得偿所愿，做到一个闪闪推光的人。

Finally, I hope you can live a good life, get what you want, be a shining person.